Breaking The Chains Biblical Recovery Ministry

SUPPORT IN A MARRIAGE

“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves…”

(Ecclesiastes 4:9-12)

It takes two to make a marriage therefore it takes two to work on a marriage. It takes two to hear, two to speak and two to act. Therefore it takes two to give support in a marriage. Both have faults, both have imperfections yet both have good attributes and bring positive aspects to the marriage as well. Never concentrate on just the faults or weaknesses of the other but look at the good in each other. God does not concentrate on just our faults and weaknesses but looks at our strengths and goodness (positive qualities) and builds them up while helping us to heal. He helps us to overcome our weaknesses and supports us when we fall. Therefore, we must support each other in good and bad times. When one spouse falls, don’t help the enemy in beating them down even more in negative words and actions out of pain and anger, but support your spouse with positive words and actions.

As Christians, we have to realize that we are in a spiritual war. In an earthly war, you have battle buddies who watch each other’s backs. Married couples must do the same. You are each other’s battle buddy and must support each other. Leave room for error and mistakes. Surrender to God all hurt, pain, anger and any other emotions you may feel by words or actions done by your spouse and He will heal you as well as your spouse.

Forgiveness is a must! Forgive each other when one falls for the word of God says in Matthew 18:21-22

Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, "Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?" Jesus answered, "I tell you, not seven times, but seventy times seven."

Show love and support to each other even when it hurts for the Lord God does the same for you when you fall and hurt Him.

Learn to keep each other in mind when temptation hits for that fiery dart (Ephesians 6:16) thrown at you by the enemy to make you fall can also strike your spouse, wounding them and causing them to fall as well. Remember, you are one flesh.

Genesis 2:24

For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.

Be honest with each other when you fall and pray together, praying for each other, for your prayers cover the other like a shield. It is written in James 5:16:

Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.

Trust in God and He will bring healing and restoration, strength and protection, love and forgiveness to your marriage. Ask Him to wipe away the past hurts from your mind that the other has caused just as He wipes away your sins of the past from His mind.

Isaiah 43:25

"I, even I, am he who blots out your transgressions, for my own sake, and remembers your sins no more."

Heavenly Father, you are a loving and forgiving God. Teach my spouse and I to be just as loving and forgiving of each other as you are with us. Wipe away all past hurts we have caused each other so we remember them no more and we are able to move forward in our marriage under your healing hand. Give us divine strength to battle together against an enemy who wishes to destroy our marriage and help us to surrender all negative emotions and thoughts to you. Give us divine healing when we are struck with the fiery dart of temptation and pain so we can recover quickly and give the same healing to our spouse when we fall. Teach u show to identify the tactics of the enemy so we can pray against the attacks that come our way. Convict us to take responsibility for our actions for although the enemy tempts us, we are the ones in the end who makes the choice to do or say right or wrong. Father, bless our marriage, strengthen it and plant the seeds of love and forgiveness deep within our hearts, sealing it closed with the blood of Christ, so that even the enemy will not be able to steal the seeds from us. We ask this in Jesus’ name…Amen.

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